Addiction Recovery

Can You Cope?

You might be surprised, as was I, to learn that by age six or so, we are programmed with the identity we carry with us through life. Our schools do not generally teach about this and we don’t always learn about it until we have issues with which to wrestle in our lives. About three-fourths of all our issues are filtered through this very program! As humans, we need to go through some REDISCOVERY if we are to live successfully from our hearts.

According to Alex Loyd, PhD, this programming can be problematic because the programming itself is based on beliefs that may or may not be true.

Dr. Loyd has done a great deal of research on this matter and he has worked with clients in a clinical setting for years.

He sites, for example, addiction issues. If addictions are interfering with one’s life, addiction has come about because of something the heart remembers when that addict was a little child.

Somewhere in that addict’s life he took a ‘vow’. ‘He cut a deal’. He made a ‘contract with the devil’. He made an informal commitment that has affected his life for as long as the vow is in place, and it affects his life negatively.

Everyone has these contracts, vows, commitments, and deals to one extent or another. Here’ how it works, according to the good doctor:

I can cope with (fill in the blank) IF ONLY I have (fill in the blank). Those blanks may include the following:

” I can do without love IF ONLY I have money. (This is VERY common)

” I can survive without fame IF ONLY I have money.

” If I am rejected, I’ll survive IF ONLY I have money

The list goes on. I’m sure you understand the concept. You can easily see that we bargain for one thing, substituting another.

Every human being needs food, shelter, and clothing. This is basic to life. Beyond the basics, we substitute. MOST OF THE SUBSTITUTES are substitutes for love!

” We substitute money for love.

” We substitute sex for love.

” We substitute television for love

” We substitute video games for love

” We substitute food for love.

” We substitute drugs for love.

Everyone on the planet seeks to AVOID PAIN and PURSUE PLEASURE. If we all participated in a survey about what we REALLY WANT it would only boil down to 4 answers:

1. Love

2. Joy

3. Peace

4. Relationships

Our hearts desire those four items. Our hearts KNOW what those desires are.

We feel pain and seek to avoid it. THAT PAIN FEEDS THAT LIFE VOW WE MADE EARLY ON. Our very identity rests on the fact that we have pain because we did not receive our heart’s desire. We act accordingly, and it is always negatively. Hence, we have great strife in our life and the stress that accompanies it can make us sick, lead to more negative behaviors, and it can kill us.

The real coping mechanism is to allow this pain to heal. We need to forgive those who injured us, wounded us or we THOUGHT/BELIEVED they hurt us. It may only have been our perception, after all.

We say to ourselves, “I can’t be okay because such and such happened.” But the truth of the matter is that we ARE okay and we will be okay. We need to ask for healing, and change our paradigm about the injury. We need to heal our heart, then our life can experience healing, as well. Energy medicine is the single most effective way to bring this healing about.

Our beliefs and our behavior will help our hearts and our lives can be affected so as to be in synch with one another. Healing will come as a relief and a blessing, creating growth and development for our very souls.

When healing comes, we will automatically receive our heart’s desire!

Connie Baum is a rural Nebraska woman who is passionate about health and healing. Her website is http://www.motherconnie.com and more information about coping with addictions can be found there in The Healing Codes. She hopes visitors to the site will leave their comments.

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